Divorce Help 101
Life After Divorce
While it may seem like resolution or an end to a divorce is a lifetime away, sooner rather than later your divorce will be over. However that doesn’t mean that your former spouse will automatically cease to exist or will no longer be in your life.
To determine how much or to what degree your former spouse will maintain a presence in your post divorce life, you need only consider the number of issues that exist between you and your former spouse that will tie you together. Perhaps the most obvious concept that will tie parties together beyond their divorce is children. Essentially your children will bind you in some form or fashion to your former spouse until your child or children are, at a minimum, 18 years old, perhaps longer.
Having children will require that you and your former spouse work together to co-parent in some fashion. Even if your arrangement as to child custody has one of the parents having sole custody and the other only having limited rights of visitation, interaction will be required and, regardless of the type of custody you and your former spouse have you each will have to work to shield your children from any disagreement you and your former spouse may have. At a minimum, with children one party will likely have a child support obligation to the other party that will keep them involved.
Other concepts that may tie you to your former spouse are other financial payments such as alimony or child support or ongoing expenses such as mortgages or health insurance. These issues may keep parties tied together for a number of years. Other issues that tie the parties may be limited in time such as joint real estate, the planning of which has to be coordinated between the parties. Other issues such as a retirement account division can be delayed for a number of years until one party becomes entitled to receive their benefits.
The fewer of these issues that exist the lower the likelihood of ongoing interaction between former spouses. However it is more likely that there will be some ongoing interaction or involvement post-divorce. For instance, there was a couple that was married for only a short time, not even a year. They separated and divorced having no children and no assets to speak of. Following their divorce they had no contact for more than two years, but upon one of the two spouses wanting to remarry and needing to address his prior marriage with his church as a result of his religion, the parties had to communicate once again.
Many people cannot let go following their divorce and it may be necessary for these people to work with professionals such as counselors or divorce coaches to gain strategies for addressing their marriage and divorce to allow them to move on in a healthy fashion. Little good can come from dwelling on a prior marriage that has ended in divorce. Many people hold onto a glimmer of hope that the marriage can be rekindled and while remarriages between previously divorces spouses are not unheard of, they are rare and the percentage of the divorce rate for these marriages is high.
It is not unheard of and is actually common for previously married parties to maintain a healthy post-divorce relationship. This allows the parties to better move forward with their post-divorce lives and to minimize conflict and problems later in life.
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To determine how much or to what degree your former spouse will maintain a presence in your post divorce life, you need only consider the number of issues that exist between you and your former spouse that will tie you together. Perhaps the most obvious concept that will tie parties together beyond their divorce is children. Essentially your children will bind you in some form or fashion to your former spouse until your child or children are, at a minimum, 18 years old, perhaps longer.
Having children will require that you and your former spouse work together to co-parent in some fashion. Even if your arrangement as to child custody has one of the parents having sole custody and the other only having limited rights of visitation, interaction will be required and, regardless of the type of custody you and your former spouse have you each will have to work to shield your children from any disagreement you and your former spouse may have. At a minimum, with children one party will likely have a child support obligation to the other party that will keep them involved.
Other concepts that may tie you to your former spouse are other financial payments such as alimony or child support or ongoing expenses such as mortgages or health insurance. These issues may keep parties tied together for a number of years. Other issues that tie the parties may be limited in time such as joint real estate, the planning of which has to be coordinated between the parties. Other issues such as a retirement account division can be delayed for a number of years until one party becomes entitled to receive their benefits.
The fewer of these issues that exist the lower the likelihood of ongoing interaction between former spouses. However it is more likely that there will be some ongoing interaction or involvement post-divorce. For instance, there was a couple that was married for only a short time, not even a year. They separated and divorced having no children and no assets to speak of. Following their divorce they had no contact for more than two years, but upon one of the two spouses wanting to remarry and needing to address his prior marriage with his church as a result of his religion, the parties had to communicate once again.
Many people cannot let go following their divorce and it may be necessary for these people to work with professionals such as counselors or divorce coaches to gain strategies for addressing their marriage and divorce to allow them to move on in a healthy fashion. Little good can come from dwelling on a prior marriage that has ended in divorce. Many people hold onto a glimmer of hope that the marriage can be rekindled and while remarriages between previously divorces spouses are not unheard of, they are rare and the percentage of the divorce rate for these marriages is high.
It is not unheard of and is actually common for previously married parties to maintain a healthy post-divorce relationship. This allows the parties to better move forward with their post-divorce lives and to minimize conflict and problems later in life.
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